The Return

Getting off your path is always a lost time for you. You lose focus to the goal at hand and have difficulties understanding WHY and What Happen? It seems like it takes so long to get where you want to be or where you use to be. Overtime, it becomes extremely frustrating. However when you get there, You are a new person!

A new person with more stripes in life, you are more prepared! You understand and appreciate it differently. Everything is different!!

Is coming off your path so bad? In a sense, NO! There is always a reason for being derailed. You could be preparing for something newer and bigger than what you expected. At this point, its best to keep doing your thang because what needs to happen will happen. When you finally return to your path, the reward will be unbelievable.....

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Good Girl Gone Bad

So they say if a Good Girl Gone Bad, She Gone Forever! But Hell who creates her?

They say is nothing like a SCORN WOMAN because she can make your life difficult. She is the one who gives up everything just for you to have something. It just takes one day, one time, one minute, and one second before she get fed up! So then she is formulated by all the b.s. you put her through. She finally says, "It's Over" and she means it this time. She becomes heartless towards you, while you trying to hold on to your pride. The girl who truly loved you and wanted you is "leaving you" because she learns that she deserves BETTER! Yes, Better!! She is hurt to her SOUL but she realize if she stays, this might get uglier. Boy, you don't want this to get ugly.

Quite frankly, I believe she is GONE FOREVER when it pertains to YOU! Of course, she holds hurt which makes love relationships suffer but that's HUMAN NATURE! We all are hesitant to start all over again but we yearn for the love of others.

Who create US? You are the blame, however we become the Scapegoat of it all. Like Chrisette Michele said, "Blame it On Me" which is easier for you. This is called "Guilty" Technique, so we can feel bad about how things turned out. Such a Jet-Eye Mind Trick aka Reverse Psychology that we fall victims of because of wanting be with you. BUMP THAT!! You also create us by not showing us our "worth" that we have control over. We let you do so much that we don't realize it. I guess "LOVE is BLIND". Once we get tired of the mistreatment then we are a "Good Girl that let a someone diminish our self-worth", which is never GOOD!!

Who create US? Ladies, we are the blame too. WHY?? We let these men plant these seeds that we can be treated less than what we are worth. Yeah, You are not demanding what is yours! You deserve more than you can imagine but it starts with you. Yes, you are the example to the WORLD how you should be treated. If you let others come and treat you how they believe you should be treated then you are telling the world, TREAT ME LESS DESERVING!! Treat me like NOTHING!! Ladies, aren't you worth more than that? Think About it seriously. So now, You are a "Good Girl Gone Bad because you don't know your SELF-WORTH".

Ok, Just for the Record, I don't have a chip on my shoulder but I have learned a lot . I know my worth and I have regain the self-confidence that I lost through experiences. My spirit is no longer broken by situations that I enabled. I just know that I am a "GOOD GIRL with BAD GIRL SIDE" that can take care of you and love in ways that will set any mans' soul on fire. I know the GAME that's it I know the GAME!!

"Good Girl Gone Bad is not Gone Forever" that was good Jay-Z Punch Line for "Song Cry". This song talks about how he did his girl so wrong that she is GONE from him FOREVER!! Nevertheless, we all are Good Women, we just need to realize how Good we Are! Men Stop Frontin and realize the Good Women you have

You Know I am Bad,

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Not Easily Broken

Hmmmm.... My Defense Mechanism!

Its easy to fight you than to love you!! Its easy to walk away than to stay... I apologize my heart can't take it.

Its unfortunate that many of us fight the ones who adores us the most because of our past relationships. Granted, we all want to be in-love and someone to love us back. However, it's so difficult to let your guards down and trust someone to glue your heart back together.

My Defense Mechanism.....

Grandmother

I wrote this poem when I was 17 years old. I found out that my Grandmother was dying from Colon Cancer. I loved my grandmother dearly, I miss very much. My Grandmother passed away on Easter Sunday in 2003 and I was so heartbroken.

Grandmother,

Its soon that you will become an Angel

If I could only get a Miracle

If you leave, I know for sure you will be caring for me

I will miss you from the bottom of my heart

My deepest feelings and my tears

If I sat quietly, wishing, praying that the mist of this pain would be swept away

I believe God has a better job for You at home

Without you it will be quiet, but I know that you are not in pain, quietly sleeping

Hold my head high as the mountains in memory of YOU

My memories will be so precious, my strength will be so strong

You will always be a woman with many lessons to teach

GOD, Please give me the miracle to SAVE YOU

In my eyes, You are not suppose to leave

Consciously, I know and understand

I love You Grandma

5 Reasons God Permit Problems

A friend of mine emailed this to me! It has changed my entire outlook when it involves problem. Hopefully, it will do the same for you ;)

5 Reasons GOD Permits Problems

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you--depending on how YOU respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring. Here are five reasons God May have Permitted the problems in your life:

1. God permits problems to DIRECT you. Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change. Is God allowing this situation to get your attention? "Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways. " Proverbs 20:30

2. God permits problems to INSPECT you. People are like tea bags... if you want to know what's inside them, just drop them into hot water! Has God tested your faith by allowing a problem or two into your life? What do problems reveal about you? "When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience." James 1:2-3

3. God uses problems to CORRECT you. Some lessons we learn only pain and failure. It's likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned...Sometimes we only learn the value of something...health, money, a relationship...by losing it. "It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws." Psalms 119:71-72

4. God permits problems to PROTECT you. A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem-but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when management's actions were eventually discovered. "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good"... Genesis 50:20

5. God permits problems to PERFECT you. Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your character are the only two things you're going to take with you into eternity.

"We can rejoice when we run into problems...they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady." Romans 5:3-4

** Here's the point: God is at work in your life-even when you do not recognize it or understand it. But it's much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him.**

"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

You Are Getting Played

In the minds of us all, there are the strong and the weak. We are easily influenced by both based on personalities and experiences. Although we claim no weakness and try to hide it with defense mechanism or disguise it with our ego, we are all weak and sensitive. However, it’s all about who sees it and how they react act to it. Everything is psychological and that’s how we all get played.

Personally, I have experience the mind-controlling aspect in many of my relationships because I was afraid of not being accepted and/or confrontation. Furthermore, I was willing suppress who I really was to be wanted and needed by someone. I would never open my mouth and say these things directly, however, who ever I encountered could sense my desire of being wanted. Some seen it as “someone who shares the same wants” while others seen it as “opportunities” aka Vultures. Technically- speaking, vultures are huge birds that choose their prey based on naked head and less powerful feet. Logical-speaking, they prey on the weak and mindless animals.

Lets break it down to a human perspective. There are many who see the weakness in others and instead of helping them become stronger, they take advantage instead. The “naked head” is person who is weak minded and are unable to think for themselves. In addition, they are easily influenced by transfer of energies from others, which ends up controlling their thoughts. For instance, if someone can come into your life and change your entire mood instantaneously by saying a few words or doing something small. You begin to be negative or sad or show reaction to their actions that are not of you then YOU ARE GETTING PLAYED! Just think about it! Answer these questions:

1. Do you care about how they feel more than yours although the decisions that you make are best for you?
2. Do you show attention and talk about what that person has done and easily can make you go into a rampage?
3. Although, the person upsets you, they can easily come back w/o earning the relationship back?

Think about it! Many of you are getting played because you allow it! You’re so concern with the individual that you are disabling yourself to become stronger. Better yet, become a better YOU! You need to stop getting played!

Ok, “less powerful feet” is person who doesn’t know “how to walk away”. Walking away is difficult within itself but is all about “how you walk away”. Many of us are still in the situation because we are not tired yet and then some of us have walked way but still entertaining it. Ok, you’re still there because the vulture has control of your mind, which embodies your spirit and your actions. As long as the vulture knows how to appeal to those things, you will never walk away period. For instance, they have control over your entire thought process when you are ready to become better you. They have completely restrained you from becoming a better person because they know if you do, you will leave. Get it, YOU WILL LEAVE! You will FIND SOMETHING BETTER THAN THEM. They also are haters because they are weak themselves. Start walking and don’t turn back. STOP GETTING PLAYED!!! For those who have walked but still entertain it, you haven’t walked away, so they still have control over you. Get it, THEY STILL HAVE CONTROL OVER YOU! You continuously let them come into your life and stir you up and change your mood. Basically, if you are going to walk away then WALK AWAY! Stop giving the Vulture your POWER!

I consider myself as very smart, wise, and intelligent young lady that has plenty of common sense. I don’t say everything on my mind because I don’t feel like I have to explain myself to the world. I have realized the vultures in my life and how I was getting played. I have watched my friends that are male and females get played and have encountered their many issues because of it. One day, I had epiphany about all the people I have encountered that were vultures and how I was done with them. I let them go quickly and they became powerless ultimately left! My life has become freer and truer most important I realize my power. My power has continued my strong force to be happy and spot vultures through a few sentences. I will admit some have fell through the cracks because I am human. I know one when I see one. I will play one and win. Simply laugh in their face! *Kanye West shrug*

All I am saying is STOP GETTING PLAYED! Reevaluate yourself and your relationships with others, throw them in the trash so you can become a better you. In essence, be happy and have control over your weaknesses.

Sincerely, Lips “Mind Under-Construction”

The Naked Truth

When do I Sleep in Your Bed?

Its a constant question burning in the minds of us all. When do we make our move, its been said to wait for the respect that we deserve. However, if the night cap involves 4-6 glasses of Moscato with a light sound of R. Kelly in the background then it's OVER!!

So when do I say "Yes"? There are so many rules that are being used by women and men to play it safe. The rules create opportunities for any screw-ups to happen or loss of interest to prevail. Ladies are the ones who are faithful to the rules because we were taught that it will gain the love that we need. Also, keep us from catching fleas :) I will admit this is a "Catch 22" rules of the game; which means you can wait and lose him as well. On the other side, rules are meant to be broken and are broken by "First Nights". They don't care and are comfortable with everything. Most of the time, the chemistry is so electrifying that it's irresistible.

To keep it Real, no one wants to carry the burden of the after affect. Especially, if you talked as if your sh!t was outlined in platinum or you can move like the waves then completely FAIL!!! The phone calls will cease and you will be blown :( . LOL!! Don't talk for the record!!

Quite Frankly, I don't think its easy to say yes or no. As humans, we are filled with lust that yearns for the touch of the one who we desire. The question really is, "if I let you, can I trust you?"

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Plant Seeds, the Right Seeds

I clapped my hands slightly to the side silently, his words touched my soul. He said, "Plant Your Seeds" which I have heard several times before but tonight it felt so brand new. He spoke of fertilizing the ground and harvesting your seeds to blossom into who you really are. He taught me, "how to love me" all over again! I soaked up every word from the time he spoke to the end, I shouted out silently from the heart as if I was in church. He overwhelmed me so much that a silent clap slightly to the side was the only reaction that I could give. Also, I sat-up front near the spotlight, so my shyness prevented my personal encore to the poet.

I thought about as humans, what seeds we are planting. He spoke of seeds that we plant and those of who come and plant seeds for us. We harvest all the seeds that are given, although they maybe good or bad. When referring to bad seeds, he is referring to us conforming to the thoughts of others about our skin, our hair, our thoughts, and the way we are. We accept the thoughts of what others may think of us negatively and we plant those seeds. Nevertheless, we plant bad seeds because we don't believe in ourselves.

It's time to plant your seeds, the right seeds.

Single Girl In the DMV World

While sitting in the sauna at the gym, I had a conversation with two ladies about being single. As I listen to them, their complaints were the same as I have heard across the board. There is not "too many good man left". I chuckled and mentioned that Essence has name the DC Area one of the "Single Men" Hot Spots. Their reaction was priceless, smhs and eyes widening which lead to "I don't believe it". I agreed with no hesitation, after thinking about all the guys I have dated. The conversation became deeper about what we want! The usual, single black man with a legal job, ambition, respectful, open-minded, honest, intelligent, speaks well, faithful and for perks versatility in style. For some, this may seem to be a lot but this is standard.

Well I have been single for quite a while and currently enjoying the dating scene. I have met guys everywhere from the store to the club. I have even let my girlfriends play matchmaker and set-up blind dates. I have tried everything and I mean everything!!! Some relationships were good and some weren't but it was a true pleasure to share his company. I just keep it moving with one less tear. I don't beg for you to come back, unless I think you're worth it. LOL!

Being Single in the DMV is quite hilarious!!! The things that I have encountered will entertain you, from embarrassing moments to "good night" kisses. Overall, I love my city! I believe he is out there and the ones I am encountering its just preparing me for Prince Charming.

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I'm an Addict!!

Bad Habits... I can't help it and I am addicted!

No one on this God’s green earth is pure. We are humans that are seduced by many things that are unforeseen by others. Sometimes these habits can be seen as obscene and not easy to understand. Who Cares!!

Close your eyes and think about it, I bet grins are coming across your face. You've been very naughty but you liked it and probably DO IT AGAIN!! It's OK, guilty pleasures are vital to keep our sanity. It’s Human Nature like the Late Great Michael Jackson said!

Honestly, I believe we all have alter egos and the alter ego wins to fulfill the void! Eventually, our conscious may come to fight our battle, but who cares! I like it better yet I love it! Yes, I crave it and I want some more.

We all suffer from the inevitable of Bad Habits! It feels so good to be bad sometimes and the aftermath feels sweeter. In essence, we have skeletons in our closet having a dance off, which keeps us mysterious and adventurous to the world and ourselves.

On another note, be smart and considerate. Bad Habits are not worth losing everything or cause great pain to others.

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LipsLoxxed on Super Bowl XLIV

Its 2 More days until the first kick off....

New Orleans Saints (15-3)

Indianapolis Colts (16-2)

Despite 2010 Blizzard in the DMV, we are still preparing for the biggest football game of every season. It's all about Pre-Game, Game, and the Post-Game and I am talking about events. We are either hosting or finding the hottest events to attend in the DMV to melt Jack Frost!

Ok, so I am not a DIEHARD Fan of the NFL, which most ladies aren't but we definitely know about the Super Bowl. The Super Bowl for most ladies is not about the game but who is watching it. Recently, I've have slaved myself to Sunday and Monday Night Football, for "single lady" purposes. It's been said by many, talk about sports and you can get his attention. For all "Attention" purposes, we are on the prowl! We are determine to wear our baby-tee football jerseys of our favorite team and our favorite pair of jeans. I will call it, "The Super Bowl Cutie Hunt".

Well, here is my prediction, I don't have one LOL!! I am leaning towards the Colts because they have the best stats and the NFL #1 Player Peyton Manning. I believe this will be a good game to watch! I will be tuning-in somewhere low-key with my t-shirt and jeans. After that, hit a Post-Game Event that I have seen on twitter.

Let's talk about Super Bowl entertainment, Halftime will have a very well-known rock band performing "The Who". The band has sold over 100 million albums and have charted 27 forty top singles. In addition, there are Pre-game performances by Keri Hilson, Rihanna, and Ne-Yo in Miami. As always, the Super Bowl will never get Super Old...lol!

It's all about commercials too, I can't wait to see the best one. They were kinda whack last year from what I remember. I am anticipating the Budweiser's commercials.

Any Kim Kardashian's fans will be looking for that engagement ring from her New Orleans Saints boyfriend Reggie Bush afterwards? I guess we will find out on "Keeping Up with the Kardashians".

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I'm So Ambitious

How ambitious are you? Is it for the Success, Money, or Just for T.V.... What drives you to the next level?

Ambition means a cherished desire

As society we have already been conditioned to have dreams and aspirations in life to chase. We have been told by thousands you can become anything you want when we're children, strong encouragement. Their encouragement drives us into making our endless thoughts into reality.

On the other side, here comes a few hills and bumps in the road that shifts our gears a little and then you begin to go parallel to the path that you were on. You still see your dream in the distance but you are now taking a slight detour. How strong is your desire to get back on track before it all runs in together then you become complacent.

We become complacent because it satisfies our lifestyle. You continue to ride it out although it was not in your plan to be where you are. So we justify this curve in life as fate by God. Yes, I believe God points us in the right direction but God help those who help themselves. So are you willing to help yourself back into your own direction with God's help by praying. Its not easy, but its your ambition that kills the fear of failing.

Look at Oprah, Jay-Z, Malcolm X, Michael Jackson, Frederick Douglass, President Obama, Tyler Perry, and MJB...etc. Life wasn't easy but they overcame many trials and tribulations to become who they are now. They realize their God-given talents, which God wants us to convey to the world. What's holding you back?

How bad do you want it? Personal Satisfaction.....

You are an amazing person and its up to you to explore the beauty that you withhold from yourself. We constantly express to our family and close friends our dreams of becoming something huge in our eyes. Are you ready? Its time to take the steps towards your destiny....

Prove the haters wrong!!! Some of us our driven by the nay-sayers....the ones who ridicule us for dreaming so big. In reality, they are upset they didn't act on their own dreams. They rather you roam with them while their walking the opposite direction of their dreams...Misery loves Company. Quite frankly, they have stop dreaming..smh!

In essence, do you! Recreate your path back to your childhood dreams because its possible. Turn on that undying ambition...

Stand High

Beauty is Pain! We must wear it......

Make us feel BEAUTIFUL!! (Check) Make us feel CONFIDENT!! (Check) Most of all SEXY!! (Check)

However after a 1000 strides and a few hours of standing still. We begin to CRY like babies. Standing Strong like Soldiers as TEARS roll down our face invisibly. Our faces convey beauty while our pinky toe is screaming "where the HELL is the closest seat available cuz you are killing me right now!" Nevertheless, we stand tall among our girls who have sky high heels on with us. While we complain and the men make light of us, we keep doing our thang!! Needless to say, MEN love them....we like to show em' off!!

Do we know the pain that we are really causing ourselves for being Divas in our heels? We listen to the Veterans of High Heels speak on their 4.25 inch heels at the tender age of 25 and now wearing 2 inch or lower to every function they attend. The complaints of knees, heels, bunions, and unattractive corns. We wear them anyway with smiles on our faces, "I look GOOD!"

Let's Keep it Real, heels are beautiful! Yes, we are inspired to go higher while we watch our fav celebs wear sky scraper Louboutins. On the contrary, the burning sensation at the balls of our feet is nothing compared to aftermaths in our knees, ankles and especially our lower backs. I did a little research and found an article by our very own newspaper "The Washington Post", which I have provided at the bottom of this blog.

Oh Yes! Please check my playlist and listen to this very HOT SONG by Keri Hilson, "High Heels". She hits it right on the toes....

Please comment....what other pains do we endure as DIVAS!!!

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/graphic/2007/05/07/GR2007050700484.html

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