Good Girl Gone Bad

So they say if a Good Girl Gone Bad, She Gone Forever! But Hell who creates her?

They say is nothing like a SCORN WOMAN because she can make your life difficult. She is the one who gives up everything just for you to have something. It just takes one day, one time, one minute, and one second before she get fed up! So then she is formulated by all the b.s. you put her through. She finally says, "It's Over" and she means it this time. She becomes heartless towards you, while you trying to hold on to your pride. The girl who truly loved you and wanted you is "leaving you" because she learns that she deserves BETTER! Yes, Better!! She is hurt to her SOUL but she realize if she stays, this might get uglier. Boy, you don't want this to get ugly.

Quite frankly, I believe she is GONE FOREVER when it pertains to YOU! Of course, she holds hurt which makes love relationships suffer but that's HUMAN NATURE! We all are hesitant to start all over again but we yearn for the love of others.

Who create US? You are the blame, however we become the Scapegoat of it all. Like Chrisette Michele said, "Blame it On Me" which is easier for you. This is called "Guilty" Technique, so we can feel bad about how things turned out. Such a Jet-Eye Mind Trick aka Reverse Psychology that we fall victims of because of wanting be with you. BUMP THAT!! You also create us by not showing us our "worth" that we have control over. We let you do so much that we don't realize it. I guess "LOVE is BLIND". Once we get tired of the mistreatment then we are a "Good Girl that let a someone diminish our self-worth", which is never GOOD!!

Who create US? Ladies, we are the blame too. WHY?? We let these men plant these seeds that we can be treated less than what we are worth. Yeah, You are not demanding what is yours! You deserve more than you can imagine but it starts with you. Yes, you are the example to the WORLD how you should be treated. If you let others come and treat you how they believe you should be treated then you are telling the world, TREAT ME LESS DESERVING!! Treat me like NOTHING!! Ladies, aren't you worth more than that? Think About it seriously. So now, You are a "Good Girl Gone Bad because you don't know your SELF-WORTH".

Ok, Just for the Record, I don't have a chip on my shoulder but I have learned a lot . I know my worth and I have regain the self-confidence that I lost through experiences. My spirit is no longer broken by situations that I enabled. I just know that I am a "GOOD GIRL with BAD GIRL SIDE" that can take care of you and love in ways that will set any mans' soul on fire. I know the GAME that's it I know the GAME!!

"Good Girl Gone Bad is not Gone Forever" that was good Jay-Z Punch Line for "Song Cry". This song talks about how he did his girl so wrong that she is GONE from him FOREVER!! Nevertheless, we all are Good Women, we just need to realize how Good we Are! Men Stop Frontin and realize the Good Women you have

You Know I am Bad,

LipsLoxxed

Not Easily Broken

Hmmmm.... My Defense Mechanism!

Its easy to fight you than to love you!! Its easy to walk away than to stay... I apologize my heart can't take it.

Its unfortunate that many of us fight the ones who adores us the most because of our past relationships. Granted, we all want to be in-love and someone to love us back. However, it's so difficult to let your guards down and trust someone to glue your heart back together.

My Defense Mechanism.....

Grandmother

I wrote this poem when I was 17 years old. I found out that my Grandmother was dying from Colon Cancer. I loved my grandmother dearly, I miss very much. My Grandmother passed away on Easter Sunday in 2003 and I was so heartbroken.

Grandmother,

Its soon that you will become an Angel

If I could only get a Miracle

If you leave, I know for sure you will be caring for me

I will miss you from the bottom of my heart

My deepest feelings and my tears

If I sat quietly, wishing, praying that the mist of this pain would be swept away

I believe God has a better job for You at home

Without you it will be quiet, but I know that you are not in pain, quietly sleeping

Hold my head high as the mountains in memory of YOU

My memories will be so precious, my strength will be so strong

You will always be a woman with many lessons to teach

GOD, Please give me the miracle to SAVE YOU

In my eyes, You are not suppose to leave

Consciously, I know and understand

I love You Grandma

5 Reasons God Permit Problems

A friend of mine emailed this to me! It has changed my entire outlook when it involves problem. Hopefully, it will do the same for you ;)

5 Reasons GOD Permits Problems

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you--depending on how YOU respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring. Here are five reasons God May have Permitted the problems in your life:

1. God permits problems to DIRECT you. Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change. Is God allowing this situation to get your attention? "Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways. " Proverbs 20:30

2. God permits problems to INSPECT you. People are like tea bags... if you want to know what's inside them, just drop them into hot water! Has God tested your faith by allowing a problem or two into your life? What do problems reveal about you? "When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience." James 1:2-3

3. God uses problems to CORRECT you. Some lessons we learn only pain and failure. It's likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned...Sometimes we only learn the value of something...health, money, a relationship...by losing it. "It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws." Psalms 119:71-72

4. God permits problems to PROTECT you. A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem-but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when management's actions were eventually discovered. "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good"... Genesis 50:20

5. God permits problems to PERFECT you. Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your character are the only two things you're going to take with you into eternity.

"We can rejoice when we run into problems...they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady." Romans 5:3-4

** Here's the point: God is at work in your life-even when you do not recognize it or understand it. But it's much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him.**

"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

You Are Getting Played

In the minds of us all, there are the strong and the weak. We are easily influenced by both based on personalities and experiences. Although we claim no weakness and try to hide it with defense mechanism or disguise it with our ego, we are all weak and sensitive. However, it’s all about who sees it and how they react act to it. Everything is psychological and that’s how we all get played.

Personally, I have experience the mind-controlling aspect in many of my relationships because I was afraid of not being accepted and/or confrontation. Furthermore, I was willing suppress who I really was to be wanted and needed by someone. I would never open my mouth and say these things directly, however, who ever I encountered could sense my desire of being wanted. Some seen it as “someone who shares the same wants” while others seen it as “opportunities” aka Vultures. Technically- speaking, vultures are huge birds that choose their prey based on naked head and less powerful feet. Logical-speaking, they prey on the weak and mindless animals.

Lets break it down to a human perspective. There are many who see the weakness in others and instead of helping them become stronger, they take advantage instead. The “naked head” is person who is weak minded and are unable to think for themselves. In addition, they are easily influenced by transfer of energies from others, which ends up controlling their thoughts. For instance, if someone can come into your life and change your entire mood instantaneously by saying a few words or doing something small. You begin to be negative or sad or show reaction to their actions that are not of you then YOU ARE GETTING PLAYED! Just think about it! Answer these questions:

1. Do you care about how they feel more than yours although the decisions that you make are best for you?
2. Do you show attention and talk about what that person has done and easily can make you go into a rampage?
3. Although, the person upsets you, they can easily come back w/o earning the relationship back?

Think about it! Many of you are getting played because you allow it! You’re so concern with the individual that you are disabling yourself to become stronger. Better yet, become a better YOU! You need to stop getting played!

Ok, “less powerful feet” is person who doesn’t know “how to walk away”. Walking away is difficult within itself but is all about “how you walk away”. Many of us are still in the situation because we are not tired yet and then some of us have walked way but still entertaining it. Ok, you’re still there because the vulture has control of your mind, which embodies your spirit and your actions. As long as the vulture knows how to appeal to those things, you will never walk away period. For instance, they have control over your entire thought process when you are ready to become better you. They have completely restrained you from becoming a better person because they know if you do, you will leave. Get it, YOU WILL LEAVE! You will FIND SOMETHING BETTER THAN THEM. They also are haters because they are weak themselves. Start walking and don’t turn back. STOP GETTING PLAYED!!! For those who have walked but still entertain it, you haven’t walked away, so they still have control over you. Get it, THEY STILL HAVE CONTROL OVER YOU! You continuously let them come into your life and stir you up and change your mood. Basically, if you are going to walk away then WALK AWAY! Stop giving the Vulture your POWER!

I consider myself as very smart, wise, and intelligent young lady that has plenty of common sense. I don’t say everything on my mind because I don’t feel like I have to explain myself to the world. I have realized the vultures in my life and how I was getting played. I have watched my friends that are male and females get played and have encountered their many issues because of it. One day, I had epiphany about all the people I have encountered that were vultures and how I was done with them. I let them go quickly and they became powerless ultimately left! My life has become freer and truer most important I realize my power. My power has continued my strong force to be happy and spot vultures through a few sentences. I will admit some have fell through the cracks because I am human. I know one when I see one. I will play one and win. Simply laugh in their face! *Kanye West shrug*

All I am saying is STOP GETTING PLAYED! Reevaluate yourself and your relationships with others, throw them in the trash so you can become a better you. In essence, be happy and have control over your weaknesses.

Sincerely, Lips “Mind Under-Construction”